One of the questions we get frequently from new brides-to-be is on the topic of wedding invitation wording. Our clients want to know the proper way to word things - whose name appears first, do they include both sets of parents names or not, what if the couple is hosting the wedding themselves, etc etc. Since this is one of the first decisions they get to make as an engaged couple, it takes on an additional level of anxiety. Fortunately, if you’re in the process of personalizing your wedding invites with your own wording, there are established templates you can follow.
At its core, the wedding invitation should be informative. It includes information such as who’s getting married, who’s hosting the wedding, and when are where the ceremony is taking place. Once you’ve decided on the details above, it’s just a matter of arranging the information according to traditions and etiquette. If you’re having a more modern / casual / unique wedding, feel free to break the traditions and use language that reflect you as a couple.
Here are some examples we’ve gathered for various scenarios. We’re kicking this off with traditional / formal style today and over the next couple of blog posts, we’ll also cover modern and casual styles and finish off with some additional wedding invitation etiquette tips, do's and don’ts.
Traditional / Formal Wedding Invitation Wording
These are the most common invitation wording templates. They vary slightly depending on who’s hosting the wedding.
If bride’s parents are hosting:
request the pleasure of your presence
You may notice that the bride’s last name is not included. It's customary to leave off the bride's last name since her last name is already included in the host line. But if the bride has a different last name than her parents, her full name should be used.
If both sets of parents are hosting
If both the bride’s and groom’s parents are hosting the wedding, list the bride's parents and groom's parents on separate lines, starting with the bride's first. You don’t need to include either the bride’s or groom's last name, since both last names are included in the host line. But if the bride or groom has a different last name than the parents, full names should be listed.
If the couple is hosting the wedding
If you’re hosting the wedding yourselves, the wording skips the host line and begins with the request line.
If everyone’s hosting
If everyone’s hosting the wedding celebration, the wording includes everyone’s names - starting with the bride & groom, followed by bride’s parents and groom’s parents.