It's often a tricky business to ask your adult guests to not bring their children to your wedding. Too subtle and your guests may not get the hint. Too blunt and you may come across as rude. Here are some examples of how to word your invitation and RSVP so your guests won’t assume that they can bring their children to your wedding celebration.
Traditionally, it’s considered rude to include “no children” on the invitation itself. It’s recommended that you ask families and friends to spread the word instead. However, this approach may not be practical if the wedding involves a wide circle of families and friends who may not all know each other. Modern weddings have more relaxed rules and some couples feel comfortable that their guests will not be offended. If this is you, you can add something like these lines on your invitation:
A slightly more subtle approach is to include “no children” information on the reception card. You can include a line following your reception information.
This approach spells out how many people are invited without mentioning that children aren’t invited. It’s the most subtle approach on this list. You can add a line that specifies how many seats are reserved. Your guests will know from the number that children are not included.
Another way to reinforce the message is to make sure that you address the invitation to adults only on the envelopes.
If you have a wedding website, you may want to mention “no children” under the “details” or “FAQ” section. Just keep in mind that not everyone checks the wedding website before RSVP-ing, so it might be helpful to reinforce the message somewhere else in your wedding invitation suite as well.